No Shortage of Single Men
Are there really less single men to women?
Sometimes we are asked, by ladies of course, where are the single men?
There is a common misconception that there are considerably less single men to women in the UK. This is why you feel you might be single if you’re a female reading this article. This is not the case at all. In fact, the Latest Census confirmed there are 31 million men to 32.2 million women in the UK.
When looking at the single population as a whole, throughout the UK for people aged between 18-64, 54% are men which leaves 46% single women. No matter which way you review these figures they do not depict a serious lack of men! It really depends on where you live and what age group you fall into as in some areas and age groups women will outweigh men. But not enough to be overly concerned.
We operate a successful and award-winning matchmaking service across Sussex, Surrey, West Kent and parts of Hampshire; Portsmouth, Winchester and Southampton areas. Therefore, we can confirm there is no shortage of eligible single men in any of these areas.
So where are the single men? And how do you find them?
When it comes to singles events I have found that quite a few men tend to shy away from them. First, they don’t like being labelled as single. Secondly, they find it daunting coming to events where they are thrust into a situation where they have to put themselves out there. Women tend to come to these events in pairs or groups. There are two to four of them attending together providing support to one another. Whereas men come alone and rarely have a wingman. It’s harder for them so they would rather have a one on one service such as matchmaking. I have even seen men and women pay for events and through pure fear come up with some form of excuse not to attend on the night. It can be difficult to get a 50/50 balance for singles events and balance age ranges perfectly as you cannot control who can buy a ticket. Having said that our events do end up with a nice balance, something not all singles events providers can say.
Whilst we run a few events a year we do not specialise in them for the reasons I mentioned above. Instead we concentrate on the more popular personalised one on one matchmaking service.
Do men really use a matchmaking service to find love?
The answer is yes, absolutely they do.
They have the same experience as some women do with online dating. They also come across time wasters and those who lie. We have seen more and more men coming to our matchmaking service in the last few years. Our youngest male members join us from the age of 30 and youngest female members are in their late 20s. We attract members from the age of 26/27 years right through to their mid-60s. The majority of our members are in their 30s, 40s, 50s with slightly less in their 60s.
We are pleased to say that we have achieved success in finding our members long-term partners from as young as 27 right up to members in their mid-60s.
Why do our members use our service?
Some of our members run their own businesses and employ people, so they don’t want someone they employ to see them using online dating services. As our members’ profiles are not online they don’t have to worry about that. Others could be teachers and don’t want their pupil’s parents to see them online. There are many different professional people that have chosen to be pro-active about finding a partner rather than leaving it to chance. Our Testimonials provide a good cross section of the ages and professions we work with. We also work with members who are retired.
How matchmaking works
People considering joining usually either call us or send through our Connect form. We arrange a convenient call back where we discuss what it is they are seeking to see if we can help them. If we believe they are likely to have a positive experience with us then we arrange a meeting with them face to face. Here we discuss in detail how the service works, the qualities and values they are seeking in a partner.
We agree a minimum amount of matches we present to our members and this is given as a written contract so it’s a binding agreement which gives reassurance to the member. Remember the more open you are the more matches you could meet. Your own narrowness could be impeding you from meeting the right partner and this could be why you’re single and may remain so for a very long time.
Our members have a hold period so if they meet someone they like and want to explore the depths of that relationship they can place their active membership on hold.
We offer a range of affordable memberships from a Taster Membership to a Full Membership which has four or six-month options. We provide a photo-shoot so you have a great profile photograph as we don’t do blind dates.
For those of you who want to remain using online dating, we can offer you a great package where we revamp your profile and offer advice on getting it right. You can also have a photo-shoot where you keep your favourite photos.
We are always happy to take a call or hear from you.
The single men are out there. Don’t think for a minute that they aren’t. We know, because we have matched hundreds of couples, some of whom are now married, live together or share a life together, all because they met who we recommended.
This could be you. So what are you waiting for? You have nothing to lose by just getting in touch with us.
Happy New Year.
If you still have questions please contact us. We are always happy to have a chat. To contact us please go to our Connect page.
Author: Tara McDonnell, founder and owner of South Downs Introductions & Your Matchmaker. Tara is a trained & certified matchmaker from the Matchmaker Academy, London. She is also a proud award winner at the UK Dating Awards 2015 and a Finalist at the UK Dating Awards 2017 and 2016.